Do you use another nick to post with on the main website?

If you don't mind, and I am not hijacking this thread, can I ask you the reverse question?

Sometimes, I find it so odd that I am writing erotica (or more properly said, porn, if I am in an unusually honest mood.)

When you read your own work, when NOT in an aroused state, how does it strike you? Does it ever seem like another person wrote it? Like a separate part of yourself was actually responsible for the words you have shared with others?

I have some very tough scenes I have to write in the next coming months. Both in the revising of the older work for publication, and newer material for the third book.

Part of me rationalizes that I can do all this 'stuff' because it is how the characters are feeling it. That this is where my initial creation of them has taken the story. That I am just along for the ride at this point.

That is both true and false.

I couldn't write this epic, not as well as some of the readers seem to enjoy it, if I didn't have at least some deeper connection to the subject matter. Or is that true?

When you read for enjoyment, do you ever find yourself surprised at your reaction to the topics and action being described? Do you feel that it is a testament to the author's skill, or a deeper more hidden part of yourself that they have accidentally tapped into?

When I am not in a place that forbids it, obviously, I also write in the nude.

Somehow that does help make sure that I am in the right frame of mind to put words on the screen.

I have tried to just sit down, rattle off a few pages at random times, and that never seems to work.

I almost always have to spend more time on those 'uninspired' sections than all the others combined. Editing, now that I can do at almost the drop of the hat. It took me a long time to teach myself to be able to accomplish that neccessary part of the job description though.

Also, I had to learn to relax, so dialogue and plot twists can assail me at the oddest moments.

Taking the idea of writing one handed a step further, where and when do your best ideas come from?

Welcome to the forums!

Hopefully we won't scare you off. We are all sort of a bit estranged, complicated, dysfunctional happy family here! But after a while, most people seem to settle in and make themselves at home.

I hope you do, too.

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Wow, thanks for the welcome!

Time out! Anytime that I feel like I am writing porn I stop. There is a huge difference. I have had guys try to get me motivated by watching "porn flicks" and it just doesn't work. But, show me a good movie with a well developed plot and characters that I can engage with, let those characters take off their clothes in a love scene, and I will eat out of your hand (so to speak).

Of course it does, because another person did write it. The aroused Debbie wrote that, but as I read it I start to feel a slight tingle, then a bit of excitement, and if the story was actually good it takes me from the unaroused Debbie to the aroused Debbie rather quickly.

Well, you are much deeper into authorship than I am so will have to answer some of those quesions for yourself. I am still at the point of writing fairly short autobiographical vignettes with brief excursions into fantasy while you have committed to a work of seemingly monumental proportions (I'm thinking more on the order of Michener here than Louis Lamour).

In one sense, the characters are your children so you can order them about however you please.

That is overly superficial. Creating the sort of world that you are doing is the ultimate schizophrenia. Every one of your characters is a small, imperfect clone of yourself which embodies some, but not all, of your genes, attitudes, beliefs, etc, and may take you places that you have literally never gone before. You may sit there thinking that you are trying to get into your characters' heads, but the truth is that they are struggling to get out of yours. Good luck in that endeavor!

Which came first, the chicken or the egg? They both have to exist for there to be either. If I don't have the hidden part to tap into then they never can. If that part is deeply hidden then they may need considerable skill to tap into it. One author may succeed where another may fail. To be blunt, I have never participated in anal intercourse, don't intend to, and find the idea revolting. At the same time, I was appalled when I first read a story in which the female enjoyed having the male penetrate her anus with a finger after kissing it (the anus, obviously). I routinely enjoy both activities now so have learned never to say "never".

Wow! Let's see, extrapolating from experience, pulling from something that I have seen or read, thinking about something that sounds fun to do but that I would be afraid to do for any number of reasons, thinking about something that someone else wants me to do that I don't really want to do but still think sounds like it would be wonderful..... Yeah, all of those and probably more that I can't think of right now.

Actually I can. All the things forbidden to us aren't forbidden by English Common Law, the Napoleanic Code, the Bible, nor anything similar. Many were handed down as Taboos in those long ago times that even predate our racial memory. That does not, of course, stop us from occasionally making a mental exploration of the possible consequences. Probably the best piece that I have ever written, one that never fails to excite me to extremes that I am not willing to admit, a piece that cannot be published here and won't be published elsewhere because it is too intensely personal, is an Electra fantasy that literally leaves me drowning in a sea of shame and sensuality. whoa, girl!

Anyway, hope that I answered at least a couple of your questions with something approaching intelligence.

I'll have to check out your stories when I get a chance. Sadly, I only read a tiny fraction of what I used to be able to do. The more I write, the less I feel I'm able to do so appreciatively.

I have to agree. Long ago the average blonde bimbo in porn getting hammered lost it's appeal. The same went for short, repetitive stroke stories. Even those that focused solely on subjects I was actually interested in.

I want to care about the characters I read about. I want the author to care for them as well. Sometimes, that is a great deal to ask, even on paid websites.

My goal is to write about sex and relationships. How they affect each other. How damaged(sic) caused in one area of our lives can be healed by success in another. How loneliness and abandonment can be almost erased when another caring individual is finally found.

So I strive to make even the sex scenes in my chapters to be something much more than just raw action.

I have had lots of 'bad' sex in my early life. I have had enough of that, even in fantasy, and hope to provide an alternative for those that think similarly.

That is kind of my experience, too. When I am just stumbling across the net, I get ambushed by the strangest things. My initial reaction is shock and revulsion. But if I am teased and warmed up with some real skill, I rather ashamedly will watch about anything. I do have standards, and limits, so there are subjects I will not watch, read or write about.

I can agree to some of that, but a few of my characters are definitely in charge. I have spent hours on some scenes, trying to bend it to fit the rest of my storyboarding, only to give up and let them have their way. I have found it's much easier to give in at that point, and revise the future work.

I have as my source years of listening, and caring about, real people in actual trouble. That has helped my initial sketches of my characters immensely. Some have just been drawn out of thin air, and have no real basis for me knowing them so well. Later on, I can sometimes see where they have sprung from. So perhaps my case is a bit unusual.

Perhaps this will say it better.

The parts of my friends . . . that I have willingly taken into myself . . . have been given new life in my stories.

I can write about some subjects, because I know that they enjoyed them, and the specific details of the journey it took for them to finally enjoy a particular fetish.

There are a lot of things I 'wish' to try. But for me, it is eventually sharing them with someone I care about that is the most important. The acts themselves might have a strong hold of me, but not enough to just 'use' any one to fulfill a fantasy.

Similarly, I will go to great lengths to please someone's else's dreaming.(sic)

My imagination . . . and it's ability to combine ideas into new combinations . . . is still the best source I have for ideas on the kinds of sex my characters end up having.

Long ago I switched over from Literotica to Erotic Stories. Somehow I knew, even back then, that there were limits imposed by the commercial market. An erotic novel isn't my ultimate goal. I have so much to learn, and as long as this genre keeps teaching me, I'll stay here.

Art's rules for posting seem very much in line for what all the ePublishers are requiring these days. I have actually come to enjoy the challenges of writing about 'forbidden' subjects in a way that satisfies the censors.

The very heart of my story is something I will NEVER be able to openly write or admit to. Sometimes NOT talking directly about a subject increases and multiplies its emotional impact.

Now that I have the Ultimate ending in mind for my series, perhaps eight or ten eBooks away, I'm committed to finishing this story.

You did very well! I'm looking forward to what else you have to say very much! Take a look at some of the older threads, mine included. That will give you the fastest way I know of to get up to speed.

The older conversations were some of the best!

Then I hope you feel comfortable enough to start a few threads of your own. Also if you need any help with writing, or even specific sex questions, this is a very good resource for that sort of thing.

Unless you are more into exploring on your own in real life!



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Unless you are more into exploring on your own in real life!

We need to distinguish between authors who write to sell and those who write to be read.

I am a very visual person, but not in the usual way. The most powerful graphic software ever developed lies within the human brain and I think mine is a stellar example. I don't have to watch it to live it, all I have to do is hear it or read it.

Considering the thousands of individuals who have written something and had it published, some good, some bad, how could you possibly be unusual?

Is that really true? Can you write about something that someone else enjoyed but you do not find attractive?

I can see myself allowing someone else to do something to me that I may not be keen on, but can't see myself insisting on doing something to them that they are not. Maybe it is 'girl' thing.

The very heart of my story is something I will NEVER be able to openly write or admit to. Sometimes NOT talking directly about a subject increases and multiplies its emotional impact.

Now that I have the Ultimate ending in mind for my series, perhaps eight or ten eBooks away, I'm committed to finishing this story.

Hmm, okay

"Heere theyre be dragons!" lol!

Back when the world had not yet been fully mapped cartographers often placed outlines of land at the edges of their work and labeled them as Terra Incognita. Some maps of the time had the additional information that "Heere theyre be dragons". I used it in this case as acknowledgement of the pitfalls involved.