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#44721 - 01/14/10 10:55 AM Re: H E A D [Re: Girlie1980]
diamonddan diamonddan addict Registered: 05/16/04 Posts: 499 Loc: Florida	Does your hubby say why he doesn't feel that the sex is fantastic?
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#44723 - 01/14/10 11:12 AM Re: H E A D [Re: diamonddan]
Girlie1980 Girlie1980 veteran Registered: 09/23/09 Posts: 1321	He doesn't seem to know, exactly, what is missing in it for him. But he does know, and admit, that he doesn't love me.
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#44725 - 01/14/10 11:36 AM Re: H E A D [Re: Girlie1980]
AntEater AntEater Pooh-Bah Registered: 02/06/08 Posts: 1899 Loc: UK	Did I read that they way you meant to write it Girlie? I hope there is a typo in that. _________________________ Anteater, or thanks to CG "Monsieur Manger de Tante" $\:D$
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#44726 - 01/14/10 11:42 AM Re: H E A D [Re: AntEater]
Girlie1980 Girlie1980 veteran Registered: 09/23/09 Posts: 1321	No typo that I can see.
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#44727 - 01/14/10 11:45 AM Re: H E A D [Re: Girlie1980]
diamonddan diamonddan addict Registered: 05/16/04 Posts: 499 Loc: Florida	I'm sorry to read that, Girlie. He obviously doesn't know what a treasure you are!
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#44728 - 01/14/10 12:02 PM Re: H E A D [Re: diamonddan]
Girlie1980 Girlie1980 veteran Registered: 09/23/09 Posts: 1321	I try not to take it personally. I don't think he's in a place right now to love anybody. It hurts to hear it, but I try to just be glad he's honest about it. And it seems like he's telling me about it because he legitimately wants my help to figure out why he can't love me. He doesn't know what the truth is, and neither do I. All we know is the rationalizations that come out of his mind. And for now we operate as if those are the truth, even though we don't believe it.
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#44731 - 01/14/10 01:36 PM Re: H E A D [Re: Girlie1980]
nadiana223 nadiana223 addict Registered: 05/16/08 Posts: 661 Loc: United States	Oh Girlie, I'm sorry to hear it. I hate to say it, but the man is a fool for not loving someone as beautiful as you. Maybe he's one of those guys who sees love as a weak emotion, and he doesn't want to seem weak to you or anybody. Or maybe some experiences that he's had has caused him to be this cold. _________________________ It was not into my ear you whispered but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed but my soul
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#44732 - 01/14/10 01:37 PM Re: H E A D [Re: Girlie1980]
nadiana223 nadiana223 addict Registered: 05/16/08 Posts: 661 Loc: United States	Originally Posted By: Girlie1980 Originally Posted By: nadiana223 ...I think that's the lesson that I'm learning in this forum. A lot of the people who are married in this forum (Uncle Ant, Uncle Dan, Girlie) are having fantastic sex with the people they're married to because (1) they love that person very much ... Which exactly explains why I feel like I am having fantastic sex but my husband doesn't. Originally Posted By: diamonddan Taking a shot in the dark here, but am going to ask, Is cum an acquired taste or was it something that was "not so bad" from the beginning? Yes, I have tasted my own, not disgusting as it looks but couldn't imagine that a mouth full would be too yummy. I guess it was "not so bad" from the beginning. But I haven't really acquired any additional taste for it over time. I doubt I'll ever be one of those women who loves the taste or texture. During the heat of a moment it just feels natural. But if you were to take it out of context and give me a cup of cum to drink, it wouldn't sound very appetizing to me. Like you said Girlie, I wouldn't exactly sip cum like a cup of Joe. In the heat of passion, i too love the taste of cum. It's warm and have a different texture to it. _________________________ It was not into my ear you whispered but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed but my soul
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#44737 - 01/15/10 08:30 AM Re: H E A D [Re: Girlie1980]
AntEater AntEater Pooh-Bah Registered: 02/06/08 Posts: 1899 Loc: UK	Originally Posted By: Girlie1980 No typo that I can see. That was what I was terribly afraid of. I know that typing that must have stung you deeply. I had been worried about you for some time. Or at least worried about your relationship, as they say, "It take one to know one". I haven't got to the situation where MrsAE doesn't love me, she does. But she has lost sight of how to, and she knows this too. In many ways it sounds like your husband. Nothing seems to get through to her and make her really happy any more. It has been happening more and more over the last few years. As she looses track of what she wants and looses her own direction then it becomes harder for her to express her feelings either to herself or to me. I'm sure it is probably a vicious circle. As she pushes me away from her, she knows at times she is but can't help doing it all the same, it becomes harder for me to help and harder for me to find the strength to help. I've lost one marriage. I don't want to loose another. This one is different in every way and I am older and wiser but I am still human (although some might deny that last point) but a relationship needs two people to work together to keep it together. The most important thing, I think, is not to let negative emotions gain control. That happened last time, and its then a high speed dive from there on down. I think you have been being very brave here on the forum for a while. Braver than I think I am. At the moment I'm 6000 miles from home. I've been away too long. Last night I tried to get my wife to talk about me coming home and about finally getting someone to have the kids so we could be together for a weekend. But she just changed the subject and wouldn't talk. I hardly slept last night, again. Today after work we talked and it went down hill fast. But then we were able to open up and agree that we need to find a way back up out of this deep dark whole. Tomorrow I'll be on my way back to England. Tomorrow night once we've got rid of the kids we'll be able to talk more, at least this time I'll be able to hold her in my arms while she cries or we do. It's not what I need right now, but I can't have what I need till she is back in the right place. Once she is happier then and only then can I hope she'll try and make me happy. All through, there are brief spells where we connect at least on some plain. It isn't what is really needed but it is better than nothing. Girlie, I do so hope you and your husband can work out how to fix things. I know what it is like to live a life where your efforts aren't reflected. You've put such a brave face on it for so long, I hope you've managed for yourself and not just for the outside world. If you too succumb to despair then it will be hard for both of you. Good luck and my best wishes go with you. Ant _________________________ Anteater, or thanks to CG "Monsieur Manger de Tante" $\:D$
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#44738 - 01/15/10 09:20 AM Re: H E A D [Re: AntEater]
diamonddan diamonddan addict Registered: 05/16/04 Posts: 499 Loc: Florida	My heart and best wishes goes out to both you and Our Girlie, Ant. Life is trial enough without having the burden of trying to keep another afloat. But we do it because of our love for those in our hearts that need a life ring tossed to them. I wish the best for you both. Dan
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